{"id":10421,"date":"2014-01-19T16:30:30","date_gmt":"2014-01-19T15:30:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fundacioorienta.com\/?p=10421"},"modified":"2019-11-25T15:14:56","modified_gmt":"2019-11-25T14:14:56","slug":"posar-normes-limits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fundacioorienta.com\/en\/posar-normes-limits\/","title":{"rendered":"COM POSAR NORMES I L\u00cdMITS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c av_one_full  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-first  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  '     ><p>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" 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.hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-6ec09fa25173fb98c0aabbac69f87068{\nmargin-top:-20px;\nheight:1px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-6ec09fa25173fb98c0aabbac69f87068 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-6  el_after_av_image  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p><strong><span style=\"color: #808080;\">Escrit per \u00c0ngels Vicente (Treballadora Social)<\/span><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-0aa7055fe62c3622faec82866afbaeb2\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-0aa7055fe62c3622faec82866afbaeb2{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_half-0aa7055fe62c3622faec82866afbaeb2 av_one_half  avia-builder-el-8  el_after_av_one_half  el_before_av_hr  flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  column-top-margin'     ><p>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-5d74ded74483867bcf4f6bb06a94fdee\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-5d74ded74483867bcf4f6bb06a94fdee{\nheight:5px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-5d74ded74483867bcf4f6bb06a94fdee hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-9  el_before_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-first '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Posar l\u00edmits no ha estat mai una tasca f\u00e0cil.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Actualment observem cada dia que la manca de l\u00edmits en els nostres infants i joves \u00e9s una realitat.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">La paraula \u201cl\u00edmit\u201d t\u00e9 que veure amb la vora, amb el terme o final d\u2019alguna cosa, t\u00e9 que veure amb la frontera, t\u00e9 que veure amb \u201cfins aqu\u00ed n\u2019hi ha prou\u201d.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Aix\u00ed escrit sembla molt f\u00e0cil, per\u00f2 no \u00e9s tan senzill com sembla.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-d50449065512dfb87382cb0128eaa335\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-av_hr-d50449065512dfb87382cb0128eaa335{\nheight:100px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-d50449065512dfb87382cb0128eaa335 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-11  el_after_av_textblock  avia-builder-el-last '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/p><\/div>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-a7fe9dadedadf73632d453ab65ef3906 hr-default  avia-builder-el-12  el_after_av_one_half  el_before_av_one_full '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c av_one_full  avia-builder-el-13  el_after_av_hr  el_before_av_hr  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  '     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Els l\u00edmits s\u00f3n necessaris<\/span><\/h4>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">La funci\u00f3 de posar l\u00edmits significa contenir, tenir cura i protegir. Mai \u00e9s tard per posar l\u00edmits i \u00e9s important pel desenvolupament emocional de l\u2019infant.\u00a0Un infant que no accepta els l\u00edmits ens est\u00e0 parlant i est\u00e0 volent dir alguna cosa.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Des de l\u2019inici de la vida tenim l\u00edmits. Quan un beb\u00e8 neix, tot \u00e9s conf\u00f3s. Ning\u00fa recorda aquest moment, per\u00f2 des de l\u2019inici de la vida les persones que tenen cura de l\u2019infant comencen a posar l\u00edmits: quan es d\u00f3na el pit o el biber\u00f3, quan s\u2019ha d\u2019anar a dormir, quan es pot jugar, quan \u00e9s el moment del bany\u2026 Aix\u00f2 permet al beb\u00e8 adquirir uns h\u00e0bits, una rutina i posar ordre al seu pensament.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8{\nmargin-top:30px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 .hr-inner{\nwidth:50px;\nborder-color:#edae44;\nmax-width:45%;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-15  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-yes'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><span class='av-seperator-icon avia-iconfont avia-font-entypo-fontello' data-av_icon='\ue8bf' data-av_iconfont='entypo-fontello' ><\/span><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Per on comencem?<\/span><\/h4>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">El respecte \u00e9s una base important per una bona entesa entre pares\/mares i fills, d\u2019una forma rec\u00edproca. Els fills deuen respectar els pares\/mares, per\u00f2 els pares\/mares han de respectar els fills. A partir del respecte s\u2019adaptaran i transformaran les normes, els acords i les rutines en funci\u00f3 de les edats i les necessitats dels infants.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Posar l\u00edmits no significa cridar, amena\u00e7ar, fer retrets. Quan es posa un l\u00edmit i com a conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncia l\u2019infant t\u00e9 una rabieta, \u00e9s important mantenir la calma i no espantar-se. \u00c9s important poder parlar en els moments que no hi ha rebequeria, trobar uns moments de reflexi\u00f3 amb l\u2019infant,\u00a0\u00a0\u00e9s b\u00e0sic pel seu bon desenvolupament emocional.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8{\nmargin-top:30px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 .hr-inner{\nwidth:50px;\nborder-color:#edae44;\nmax-width:45%;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-17  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-yes'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><span class='av-seperator-icon avia-iconfont avia-font-entypo-fontello' data-av_icon='\ue8bf' data-av_iconfont='entypo-fontello' ><\/span><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Una feina de cada dia<\/span><\/h4>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u00c9s important que cada dia intentem buscar una estona dins la rapidesa de cada dia per escoltar els nostres fills. Qu\u00e8 ens parem a pensar com est\u00e0 el nostre fill\/a: Est\u00e0 content?\u00a0Est\u00e0 trist?\u00a0Se sent abatut? Se sent frustrat? Per qu\u00e8 no em fa cas?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8{\nmargin-top:30px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 .hr-inner{\nwidth:50px;\nborder-color:#edae44;\nmax-width:45%;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-19  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-yes'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><span class='av-seperator-icon avia-iconfont avia-font-entypo-fontello' data-av_icon='\ue8bf' data-av_iconfont='entypo-fontello' ><\/span><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h3><\/h3>\n<table style=\"height: 130px; border-color: #6e6969; background-color: #6e6969;\" width=\"1190\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td style=\"width: 840px;\">\n<h4><span style=\"color: #333399;\">A la pr\u00e0ctica<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>Posar l\u00edmits no \u00e9s una tasca f\u00e0cil.<\/li>\n<li>No hi ha una \u201crecepta\u201d m\u00e0gica.<\/li>\n<li>Els l\u00edmits protegeixen i contenen. Donen seguretat.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s necessari aplicar unes regles de joc que s\u00f3n la base i fonament per formar infants responsables.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important aplicar els l\u00edmits i normes a les circumst\u00e0ncies personals i edat de l\u2019infant.<\/li>\n<li>Quan els adults posem l\u00edmits, pot produir r\u00e0bia i enuig en l\u2019infant. \u00c9s normal. Amb el temps els l\u00edmits calmen i donen tranquil\u00b7litat.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important que l\u2019infant pugui expressar els seus sentiments.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important poder escoltar i reflexionar.<\/li>\n<li>Els adults som un model a seguir pels infants.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important deixar clar quina conducta \u00e9s adequada i quina no ho \u00e9s.<\/li>\n<li>Tenir una actitud d\u2019ensenyar, no de manar.<\/li>\n<li>Els c\u00e0stigs han de ser reparadors i per poder aprendre.<\/li>\n<li>Els c\u00e0stigs no s\u00f3n condemnes.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important crear una ambient de respecte.<\/li>\n<li>Donar les ordres amb claredat, amb fermesa i amabilitat i despr\u00e9s agrair sempre el que s\u2019ha fet.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c9s important posar normes i l\u00edmits per amor i convenciment, mai per por o per coacci\u00f3.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8\">\n#top .hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8{\nmargin-top:30px;\nmargin-bottom:30px;\n}\n.hr.av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 .hr-inner{\nwidth:50px;\nborder-color:#edae44;\nmax-width:45%;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-e66cdd4d1c44de5b154f8722474382a8 hr-custom  avia-builder-el-21  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  hr-center hr-icon-yes'><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><span class='av-seperator-icon avia-iconfont avia-font-entypo-fontello' data-av_icon='\ue8bf' data-av_iconfont='entypo-fontello' ><\/span><span class='hr-inner inner-border-av-border-thin'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h3><\/h3>\n<table style=\"height: 320px; background-color: #6e6969;\" width=\"1190\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td style=\"width: 841px;\">\n<h4><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Preguntes amb resposta<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><strong>Quan estem en llocs p\u00fablics i em demana coses, he de donar-li perqu\u00e8 no faci una rebequeria m\u00e9s grossa?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Si les demandes dels fills no ens semblen adequades, no les hem de satisfer i menys per evitar una rebequeria. Si estan en un lloc p\u00fablic no el podem contenir, el millor ser\u00e0 marxar a casa o a un lloc on puguem ajudar-lo. Hem de mantenir el no que hem donat per\u00f2 tolerant la r\u00e0bia que li pot generar, ajudant-lo a tolerar-la ell mateix com un proc\u00e9s de la frustraci\u00f3. Poc a poc anir\u00e0 disminuint.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>Si l\u2019altre progenitor ha posat un c\u00e0stig que jo penso que \u00e9s excessiu, el puc modificar?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Els l\u00edmits han de ser mantinguts i en el possible, acordats per ambd\u00f3s pares. Si pensem que l\u2019altre progenitor s\u2019ha excedit, haurem de parlar amb ell sense el infant present i valorar la modificaci\u00f3 del c\u00e0stig sempre que s\u2019estigui d\u2019acord. El progenitor que ha posat el c\u00e0stig ser\u00e0 l\u2019encarregat de modificar-lo, explicant al fill les raons o arribant a un acord, per\u00f2 mai hem de desautoritzar-nos entre els adults davant els fills.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>Treballo moltes hores i quan arribo cansada, prefereixo passar una bona estona amb els fills i evitar enfrontaments.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hem de procurar que el temps que passem amb els fills sigui de qualitat per\u00f2 aix\u00f2 no ha d\u2019anar en detriment d\u2019educar-los i posar-los l\u00edmits. Si no volem enfrontaments, podem posar les normes de forma tranquil\u00b7la i ferma per\u00f2 no deixar de fer el que vulguin per evitar conflictes. Donar opcions ens pot ajudar a que el nen tamb\u00e9 tingui sensaci\u00f3 de que decideix. Amb la roba per exemple, deixar escollir entre dos pantalons o dos jerseis que nosaltres haurem decidit pr\u00e8viament.<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div><div  class='hr av-av_hr-dd6dd0015cec10af980480403f6a5ba8 hr-default  avia-builder-el-23  el_after_av_one_full  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/p>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h4><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Cas Cl\u00ednic<\/span><\/h4>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">La Marta \u00e9s una nena de 7 anys que fa rebequeries en moltes situacions. Al mat\u00ed, no tolera que no pugui decidir la roba que s&#8217;ha de posar. Per evitar conflictes els pares deixen que esculli ella la roba, cosa que pot arribar a fer que vagi amb roba d\u2019estiu a l&#8217;hivern. Quan \u00e9s al parc no arriba mai el moment de marxar i, tot i que li permeten que es quedi m\u00e9s temps, sempre acaba fent alguna rebequeria. Incl\u00fas amena\u00e7a amb fer-se mal o tirar-se davant un cotxe. Els pares estan separats i sovint no hi ha acord entre ambd\u00f3s progenitors.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">En la primera consulta es posa de manifest el comportament tir\u00e0nic de la nena que passa l\u2019estona donant cops a la taula i sense deixar parlar els pares. S\u2019acorden unes m\u00ednimes normes que han de complir ambd\u00f3s progenitors i les conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncies que es posaran i que seran conegudes per la nena. Al mat\u00ed la nena decidir\u00e0 la roba entre les opcions preparades pel progenitor amb qui estigui. En el moment de marxar del parc s\u2019avisar\u00e0 amb temps i si fa alguna rebequeria, s\u2019intentar\u00e0 contenir o es marxar\u00e0 a casa de seguida, posant alguna conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncia pr\u00e8viament parlada amb la nena (no anar al parc l\u2019endem\u00e0 p.ex.). Poc a poc i amb forces dificultats la Marta ent\u00e9n que ha de seguir unes normes. La contenci\u00f3 dels pares tamb\u00e9 ajuda a que estigui m\u00e9s tranquil\u00b7la ja que no sent que la seva pr\u00f2pia agressivitat envaeix tota la fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-a7fe9dadedadf73632d453ab65ef3906 hr-default  avia-builder-el-25  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h4><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Refer\u00e8ncies Bibliogr\u00e0fiques<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><strong>PELS PARES. Llibres que ens parlen de com posar normes i l\u00edmits:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Philips, Asha. (2002) &#8220;Decir no. Por qu\u00e9 es tan importante poner l\u00edmites a los hijos&#8221;. Ed. Debolsillo.<\/p>\n<p>Thi\u00f3 de Pol, Carme. (2013) &#8220;Entre pares i fills&#8221;. Editorial Barcanova.<\/p>\n<p>Cardona, Victoria. (2010) &#8220;Qui mana aqu\u00ed? Els fills necessiten llibertat i autoritat&#8221;. Editorial P\u00f2rtic.<\/p>\n<p>Bini\u00e9s Lanceta, Purificaci\u00f3n. (2010) &#8220;Ser pares, avui: A la recerca del sentit com\u00fa&#8221;. Editorial Gra\u00f3.<\/p>\n<p><strong>PELS FILLS. Llibres que ens parlen de com posar normes i l\u00edmits:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Col\u00b7lecci\u00f3 de contes <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tonitina.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&#8220;Toni i Tina&#8221; <\/a>Editorial Castellnou.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n<div  class='hr av-av_hr-a7fe9dadedadf73632d453ab65ef3906 hr-default  avia-builder-el-27  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '><span class='hr-inner '><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-396ddf1f42196ca838231e61a4602801 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><dl class=\"article-info\">\n<dt><\/dt>\n<\/dl>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/4.0\/\" rel=\"license\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"border-width: 0;\" src=\"https:\/\/i.creativecommons.org\/l\/by-nc-sa\/4.0\/88x31.png\" alt=\"Llic\u00e8ncia de Creative Commons\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nAquesta obra est\u00e0 subjecta a una llic\u00e8ncia de <a href=\"http:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/4.0\/\" rel=\"license\">Reconeixement-NoComercial-CompartirIgual 4.0 Internacional de Creative Commons<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":15803,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[431,432,433,428],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10421","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-3a6anys","category-7a10anys","category-11a15anys","category-conflictes-familiars"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.0 - 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